...bUT SHE MADE A PROMISE TO ME NOT TO TURN HER BACK ON ME LIKE EVERYONE ELSE HAS PRETTY MUCH DONE BECAUSE I'M NOT "NORMAL" anymore.
She saw all of this unfold last year and heard what the doctors psychologists and everyone told her. But I'm still shytted on by her. I'm still treated awfully when I think I'm trying to do things to help her as well
since you have made this observation all on your own that she responds this way to your actions, it would appear to me that you should stop doing these things instead of trying to get her to understand you - her understanding you isn't going to happen, time to let go and move on.
maybe she's scared i don't know. I just want to be normal and have my family rob.
I don't think I shuld post here anymore. I'm thinking about leaving here too. I feel like I should just find a way to do things. Maybe go to a mental facility or something. I'm not normal anymore.
i can't logically think through things. I can't process things the right way. I didn't even mean to use the word "flack" earlier. I don't even remember typing that I menat to use ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm damnit. BLUNTNESS.
rob I really really hate this shyt. Im reading bak trhough my threads and I repeat stuff over and over heck it took me like 5 mins just to remember the word bluntness. bluntness directness
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
Then take a break. You're in an emotional state. Keep calm. Think before you talk. And I urge the other posters here to do the same. There are too many insults flying around here from both sides that are unnecessary. I don't care who started, just drop the personal attacks.
Too many feelings have been hurt here. I suggest everyone apologize to each other and try help one another not hurt each other.
All of you need to realize that there are real people behind this medium who hurt.
I'm guilty of this too and apologize to you for anything I might have said to offend you James and everyone else.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
I'm glad pretty much everyone here is so patient and understanding with someone who is really trying his damndest.
I'm sorry for ever joining this board. I will no longer post here since I'm so rude awful terrible pretty much stupid crazy have no nuts and all the other kind words people have had for me.
I hardly remember posts on here unless I write down information to remember and what I put in my journals. But that's fine.
Sometimes I just stare of into space forgetting im on the phone about appointments or any of that. WAW did all of that cause I would forget.
maybe i'm schitzo maybe i'm biploar who freaking knows. All I know is that somewhere deep down inside i wish I was the normal loving person I used to be.
I'd honestly rather be dead than to live life like this anymore. I dont even recognize the person i've become anymore.
so thanks everyone for trying. maybe i'm just a lost cause and I should just grant WAW her freedom because I will probably never be normal again.
Being tazed, being a victim of unresolved brutality by law enforcement, being in a situation like yours where your significant other may as well be a demon from hades.... Its going to strip your emotional strength. Why I said to find your confidence outside of your current situation. You can get past ALL of it, including the brutality and tazing, because in most situations there IS something you can do.
For example, on the wife, when she cut up your forearms, you could have called 9-11. Something would have happened, you might not have wanted the wife in jail, but its what she needed to cool down and learn there is a repurcussion. Maybe if you would have done this for this situation and others, you wouldn't be having the trouble you are today.
On the police brutality, and if there was a tazing which was unwarranted. You could have contacted the FBI, Internal Affairs, an Attourney ( some for free ), or even a Department outside of that precinct.
Sometimes there is nothing you can do, but in many cases there IS.
On your current pain, and feeling of hopelessness due to your current life situation. I'll give the advice I gave on other forums.
LOOK FORWARD. Get your ass into the gym, make a goal to be in the best shape of your life. Pick up a martial art. Learn to dance. Take a class or classes at a community college for something your interested in. Your going to meet new people doing each of these things. Get a second job. Each of these will empower you in various ways.
Stop taking a pounding. Its probably better not to complain here for a while, and throw your self in the gym and on GAL. Get more involved in programs at your church or others...
Your wife may not be the one for you. Like I said, make yourself conducive to other situations outside of your wife. This is probably what you need to do anyway to get her back if you wanted it.
Your going to be ok either way. Its the same advice many of us need to follow.b
If you feel you are being sh*tted on by your W then why keep chasing or longing for somebody that will keep sh*tting on you at this time? But we said that a while back and it was not what you liked. My husband treated me like a queen for 12 years then dumped me shortly after I got sick. You really can't compare behavior from a WAS as a "before and after". What happened before is not relevant to what is happening now with your WAS. Honestly, it sounds best if the two of you stay away from each other. You both are not well and being together won't change that.
I am sorry but you still have made it seem like it is okay for some people to approach things a certain way yet wrong when others do the same thing.
Maybe an inpatient stay would be a good idea. Until you move past the idea that nobody here is attacking you despite what happened in your past, this board will do you no good. Stomping your feet and pulling out bits and pieces of other situations and saying how hurt your feelings are really prevents you from absorbing all there is to absorb here. You said very ugly things about me but here I am. If you want to leave the board then leave. If you want to stay then stay but don't be unkind and lash out at the peole who want to see your life get better. You say you have no friends yet on this very forum there are many people that have reached out to you and that wasn't right for you either.
If you feel you are being sh*tted on by your W then why keep chasing or longing for somebody that will keep sh*tting on you at this time? But we said that a while back and it was not what you liked. My husband treated me like a queen for 12 years then dumped me shortly after I got sick. You really can't compare behavior from a WAS as a "before and after". What happened before is not relevant to what is happening now with your WAS. Honestly, it sounds best if the two of you stay away from each other. You both are not well and being together won't change that.
I am sorry but you still have made it seem like it is okay for some people to approach things a certain way yet wrong when others do the same thing.
Maybe an inpatient stay would be a good idea. Until you move past the idea that nobody here is attacking you despite what happened in your past, this board will do you no good. Stomping your feet and pulling out bits and pieces of other situations and saying how hurt your feelings are really prevents you from absorbing all there is to absorb here. You said very ugly things about me but here I am. If you want to leave the board then leave. If you want to stay then stay but don't be unkind and lash out at the peole who want to see your life get better. You say you have no friends yet on this very forum there are many people that have reached out to you and that wasn't right for you either.
CityGirl,
I have a prediction that he is finally going to listen.
