The dreaded LIMBO

[newmama]

Question...how do you decide how much of the truth you want to hear. I almost feel like if I know too much I won't be able to move past it.

from what I have read and from a close friend of mine, you don't know. This is not a quick process. You will probably ask him more questions as time goes on.
For me, it will be important that he answer any question I have without being frustrated with me. I don't know what you will want. A close friend of mine wanted to know every detail and it has been 16 months and they still talk about the A (2 month long A) at least 2x a week because that is what she needs. Her H has been very honest and patient and has done everything she has asked of him. My friend's obsession was more with OW than her H...she actually ended up meeting with her and talking/drinking for 5 hours and then she let the obsession go. (But that is not for everyone!!!!!)

So you don't have to know everything right now...and seriously, there really are some very gory intimate details that you might want to know but then regret asking (from what I guess).

I AM ROOTING FOR YOU 4luv!!! They say R is even harder than limbo so find your inner strength (AGAIN) and hold on for the ride. Heck if you need to get away to absorb it all, do it!