reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

Thanks for everyone's thoughts.

Business trips took both of us out of town for the past several days, so an update is in order.

W is in a serious tailspin. She feels she is losing everything, including friends, family, relationship. If D continues, this is somewhat correct, but there is no doubt she is being very, very hard on herself, and is imagining things (loss of friends) that are not there. But she thinks what she thinks. Her future is very dark and uncertain, and she has no idea where to go from here. It is very hard to watch this without trying to help.

All the cards on the table, as they should always have been (yes, I know hindsight is 20/20). Discussion of my previous A has been good, in a strange way. I have obviously been in denial about the whole thing, and stupidly thought it was buried forever, which it obviously never was. How I could have been such a moron is a good question. However, in the days following our D discussion, we have discussed aspects of our R that we have not had a chance to since the whole thing blew up last fall. Finally we touched on sensitive topics that NEED to get out in the open.

Maybe I am being stupid and riduculously hopeful. I am trying to work on GAL and trying to give her space. Do I try to intervene in this serious depressive tailspin? I want to suggest that we take a step back and re-evaluate, take some time, relax a bit. The other choice is to step aside and let her deal with her issues. Not sure which approach is the intelligent way to go. Having a difficult time abandoning the woman I love in a time of deep emotional crisis, but maybe I am simply a sap. What to do? Thoughts would be appreciated.