I would love to see where in the bible your husband comes up with his excuse for infidelity! I know someone whose husband told her he was leaving because "God has big plans for me and they don't include you". The human mind is an amazing thing!!!
I think he believes he's far above anything as quaint and archaic as the Bible or the commandments. it's all about self-actualization and, as he called it, "living into his truth." religion was all about the externals for him anyway, very little grasp of the relational aspect of faith.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012