Oh might I add why I"m fuming and need the 24/48 hr rule.
The visitation at H's apt has been an issue, as you know. I agreed we need to do it together, in ways we both feel comfortable. I had at one point said I would (generally) be comfortable if he took S to his apt during the day. I also said other things like I'd like to go with him the first time, read about or talk to MC about how to explain it to S, etc.
A while back he just took him to his apt without telling me until later.
I asked him again to tell me ahead of time that was what he was planning to do, and that I'd like to consider the other ways to make this important transition careful for S.
He blew me off. Did it again today. I asked S if he had fun with daddy today to which he replied "we went to the park and daddy's apt."
It's the sheer avoidance again. Avoidance. The disrespect for my requests like so many. LIke my requests to stick to our conversation rules and time outs. Like my requests for him never to blow up at me and S when he comes over.
He ignores all of it. No wonder I was unhappy in my marriage. Selfish and avoidant.
