Oh hugs DG. I agree with OP, it sounds like a moment of clarity. But of course it's not surprising about the pull-back afterwards . If you want to continue DBing, I would say "do more of what works". You didn't make progress by calling him and keeping him updated, you made progress by staying dim and making him come to you. Most importantly, what you've been doing is working for YOU. You're making progress on detachment and you're totally kicking butt on taking care of business.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. If you want to continue DBing, I would say "do more of what works". You didn't make progress by calling him and keeping him updated, you made progress by staying dim and making him come to you. Most importantly, what you've been doing is working for YOU. You're making progress on detachment and you're totally kicking butt on taking care of business.
