hm, I gotta say I agree with poet 100% on the strength of this alone
Originally Posted By: hoosiermama
...pastor was far more appalled that I read xH's private email and shared it with him than he was at the adultery, and agreed to meet with me one time only.
Originally Posted By: poet
LOOK FOR SOMEONE OTHER THAN HIM TO TURN TO FOR SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP. AND FAST!
This, too.

Though I do realize that Church/pastor/spiritual decisions are extremely personal - intimate, even - and, therefore you ultimately must listen to no one and nothing but your own heart.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac