W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

I understand what you are saying. We are 3 months into our sitch and probably a little of a month just about two of quality DBing. Way to early for me to change direction.

I am a better person now, yes. Also you are right, I did value and cherish the time we spent together. I just never made her feel like she was appreciated. I literally told my W "you are a terrible wife" for really no reason at all. I had a terrible impulse to say mean things. So I CAN and WILL weather this storm.

I have spoke with a counselor since week 2 of our sitch. I took an anger management course, I have read books on anger management. I have seen a therapist as well. I have and contine to combat controlling behavior and I am learning to detach. Detaching will take time since we pretty much spent nearly ever moment together for the past 7 years.

Update:
We went ot the memorial service and my W DID wear the ring. My W was cold and distant at times. She would say something to me, i would reply and she would say "hmmm?" And give a dirty look...I simply and calmly repeated myself.

After the service we went up to the hospital. Same bahvoir from my W.

After that we stopped off at a grocery store. My W was looking at something to get a female co-worker for her bday tomorrow. My W was looking and so I asked "you interested in getting that?" At first she replied "yes, for my friend" then said the co-workers name and told me her bday is tomorrow. My initial thought was "did this person ever get you anything for your bday?" But I cleared that thought and said "that would be a good gesture" so my W decides not to get and walks away and I said you should get it and then she gives me a dirty look like I had four heads. Later on samething, another item she thought about getting same person and she decides no to and I encourage her to do so and I get same look. In the past I would had got upset if she would had considered such a thing, but now I am more supportive and encouraging.

We got home unpacked, fooled around with the dog. Sat and watched some TV till she went up to bed.

Overall she was pretty distant today but did engage in a lot of conversation when I was quit. When I try to engage her into a convo she is not always as accepting.