"...pastor was far more appalled that I read xH's private email and shared it with him than he was at the adultery, and agreed to meet with me one time only."
See! This is what I mean about your "pastor" Hoos. I mean to tell ya, you may want to "reconsider" about this guy and LOOK FOR SOMEONE OTHER THAN HIM TO TURN TO FOR SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP. AND FAST!
The reason I say this is because my OWN experience is similar to yours - in the beginning! I supplied emails to my priest too. Only my emails were of H's indescretions with prostitutes etc., etc. Don't really know what yours were, but to me, it doesn't really matter. MY priest, was consoling with me and said I should divorce him -- not really sure how this goes along with the teachings of the Catholic Church, of which I'm a part of, but I've struggled with it now for two years.
Anyway, my point being ... my priest/in fact BOTH of them, side with me in WAY my direction. (It is possible that they do because they are not in contact with stbx). But, one of them was in the beginning and he still sees stbx as the culprit who is "not normal." That's yet another story.
But see my point? Try looking for another confidant in the church, maybe even another church of the same denomination near you. I travel 30 miles just to see my priest. When I went to mediation on Thursday, I texted him and told him where I was. He texted back, saying all is well (meaning God is taking care of it). Not a lot of support but CERTAINLY more than yours, girlfried.
We're with you dear. Stay strong. Stay clear in your faith and you're loved here.
