Lola...I never had a great male role model...my parents split when I was 10 and we left the state. I saw my Dad usually for about 2 weeks out of the year. But mom didn't marry a great man the second time either. Fortunately he traveled a lot and hardly around. so I never learned how to really be a husband. I'm not a bad person; but no one either verbally or through actions taught me how to be a husband. So that's my perspective on me not being able to have a great marriage.
For the W...parents D'd early in her life. But Mom was mostly absent. Father was an alcoholic and he was never around either. Mom was a bad role model, affairs, late nights out..wife was mostly raised by sitters. Somewhere in all of that, a PD was born. So she never learned how to be a wife. She also never got a faith based viewpoint of M. Her outlook on M isn't any different than that of a high school BF/GF relationship.
So, neither of us had it in us to sustain a lasting M. I've learned a lot on my own on being a good H. I still believe in M. I feel that our culture in this country, no really western culture and the decline of reliance on Christian beliefs in our day to day lives has led to a 50% divorce rate and all the infidelity. Media, movies, and music have de-sensitized us to the effects of infidelity. Kids from the last two generations haven't been led to know the importance of marriage and fidelity. If they have been taught; there is a strong conflict to those beliefs in our entertainment.
