My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TrentC]

She used an analogy that if you stop water the grass and tending to it the grass will be greener on the other side. But it won't always be greener on the other side. She said affairs typically last 6-9 months.

And there are signs already that this relationship is doomed to failure. But instead of working on where you want to be if and when that happens, you are fixating on them.

I'm actually really confused about what to do. I am just so fed up with the h and feel he has completely changed under the fog he is in. It is like he threw all of his morals out of the window.

Well, he did. WAS's are operating out of selfishness, and will say and do things to justify their feelings or actions. Or do you think that he married you with the intention of cheating on you sometime down the line?

I'm just confused today and still really thinking of sending a letter or something to the ow with facts and statistics about relationships built on lies.

It still won't help. It doesn't change the fact that you are far from a disinterested party in this.

I still feel that any meddling you do to affect their relationship with either make it stronger because it gives them something to bond over, or will harm your relationship with your H. If you're really lucky, it will do both.

Let me put it to you this way. Say the OW sent you a letter trying to explain how she and your H are really, truly in love and that he has zero intention of ever working things out with you. How would you take it? Would you just shrug your shoulders and move on?