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A bit of clarification...
This isn't my pastor. awhile before he split, xH changed denominations so that he could be ordained (Catholicism frowns on that sort of thing, married people being ordained and all). And this pastor and his wife and xH and I hung out from time to time, had dinner, chats, etc. so when xH apparently went crazy and all, I contacted him to talk some sense into xH. provided emails that proved he left me for the wicca woman. pastor was far more appalled that I read xH's private email and shared it with him than he was at the adultery, and agreed to meet with me one time only.

xH wasn't just a member of this congregation, he's a candidate for priesthood, participates in a leadership role at liturgies and serves on a leadership committee. I agree, you don't kick someone out of your church, but you also don't need to elevate them to a leadership position when their personal lives are a mess, nor do you recommend them for priesthood. and you also don't push away the family that has been left to fend for themselves in the midst of pain without reaching out in some way. I've done pastoral ministry...I would have handled this far differently if I was on the other side of it.