W still wants separation, need to DB more

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OIN,

Are you seeing a counselor at all? She might be more accepting of your attempts to change if she knows you are actually talking to someone.

I am glad to see that you are taking the long view. While I do agree with DLS that you can't hang in limbo forever, you have barely begun the process. You both need time -- you need to make sure that the changes you want to make will stick, and she needs to accept that the changes you are making are genuine and lasting.