Exactly.. the fact that YOU stood up for your marriage with maturity left him disarmed...
a. You didn't whine and beg him to come home and cry like a baby b. you didn't toss him out and complain to all his friends that he is a good for nothing bum
He acted like a child, but you responded with maturity... he had little choice but to go underground and pretend he's being adult about everything.
This is the point MWD is getting at in DR... if you respond to immaturity like an adult, your spouse in many cases will in have no choice but to do the same.
Now... dont get me wrong I know he's acting childish, but publically he's got to maintain his good guy image now.. you gave him no choice based on how you exposed his affair.. you exposed with love and maturity...
And it did piss him off.. BOTH of them publically responded with a mature response to it...
If he kept up the affair publically after you exposed he would have been the talk of the town...
Note : If you read maynard's thread he exposed and his wife bit the bullet and just kept up the parade of the affair all over town... she didn't CARE if she made a fool of herself.
This is NOT how your H responded to your exposure, your husband ran for cover instead...
If he continues to act like the mature husband in public then exposure will do damage... he's trying to maintain a good public image, it is his weak point. He just never expected you had the talent to turn his love story into a scandal and look the better person for it... I honestlty don't think he thought you had it in you...
He expected you to hide under the covers and keep quiet or to toss him out into the street
You threw him a curve ball and he had to rethink his strategy...
