What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[gatsby11]

Okay, just finished talking with the in-laws. I'm putting random thoughts here, and I'll come back later to clarify.

+ He has a problem with a lot of parts of our marriage: my independence and "not needing him," how we didn't eat dinner together, how we did so many things separately

+ He acknowledges that we were a good team and very compatible in many ways.

+ He says that he still loves me and still considers me his best friend.

+ He says he's been faithful to me this whole time (besides making out with that one chick one time)

+ His parents definitely see him as being extremely selfish righ tnow. He even says that he is really selfish.

+ He is going through an identity crisis, and has a lot of anxiety right now.

+ He does want to be a part of the baby's life, and even has a goal from therapy for the three of us to do something together as a family (but not really he and I being a couple)

His parents don't like giving me info. . . okay, his mom doesn't but his dad does. . . but I told them they didn't have to give me info any more. Just to give WH the message that if he wants to talk, he needs to take the first step.

At first his parents thought that I should approach him and soon. His dad said How else will this marriage be saved unless one of you gives in? It took me a long while to really show them that even though I'm in NC, I'm not the one who doesn't want to communicate. If he wants to, I will. But he has to come up with it himself.

I think they still think of us as a unit. His mom doesn't like passing information between us because it replaces his and my communication. But. . . it's just really hard to explain to them. I told them I'd be willing to work on the marriage, but he didn't want to. It's easy for them to think of it as a joint decision, because everything in our lives up until now has been that way!

What else, let me see. . .

+ WH cried when his mom told him that I had to have another sonogram this week to make sure the baby was okay.

+ He teared up a couple of times in their conversation, but he held it together for the most part.

+ They're going bowling on Tuesday night.

I can't think of anything more yet. I'm exercising now, and I'll be processing what just happened. I'll come back a little later to probably add more.