You may be on to something there Allen. I think you're right, I hadn't looked at it from a pride as a man side of things. That seems to me to strike a chord and is likely the very reason H agreed to no contact... he expected me to step aside and instead I told his friends that he's a repeat offender and I'm standing up for the M and what's right. Even though he told them I'm crazy and he can't stand to be with me another minute and she is his soul mate (the second time he's had this conversation with them - the first time being when he left his first wife for me) - now he looks like a fool and insincere... even though the friends will side with him in the end, he wants to be the good guy. JacT, you're right - I need some rest. Maybe I'm addicted to the advice I'm getting. I'm typically a very emphatic and intuitive person. The fact that I'm going back and forth and thinking it through is a 180 for me, but not necessarily a good thing.
I am really going to have to "find" myself again and start to use my intuition. But the advice on these boards is so invaluable and even just the support, knowing there are caring people willing to help out a complete stranger... well, thank you all so much.
