I like the theft/vandalism thing. Hmmm, maybe something for me to lobby for.
Saffie is right, though, Allen. OW and H WERE exposing. He took her around to his friends, introduced her, took her to our restaurants where the bartenders/waitresses know us. It was/is embarrassing. He told our best man they were going to marry and I'm crazy, told him to tell the other man in the group, and the bartenders where we've been going for 15 years on Thursdays after his karate class know - even to our favorite restaurants.