I think we have to keep in mind that Pastor's are human and they make mistakes. Now, whether this Pastor has made a mistake is hard for me to judge. The fact that he took the time to reply at the length he did says something, a coward would have ignored your email and had you taken off the email list. Obviously, he is trying to give some kind of explanation be it right or wrong. I'm also not sure that it's the Pastor's job to play policeman because if that were the case he'd be kicking people out of the church left and right. Wasn't it Jesus who hung out with sinners? He was Lord of the Losers! A Pastor has to walk a very fine line sometimes, sinners need someone to go to but won't if the Pastor is the law and order guy. In any church there are any number of people who, according to others, shouldn't be there. Does the Pastor kick everyone out who isn't towing the line? I can see the Pastor not allowing them responsible positions in the congregation but otherwise I'm not sure it's his place to kick ass! Obviously, everyone else on this thread disagrees. So kick me off the thread! grin But seriously Hoosier, I'm so sorry for the hurt that this has caused you. We all want to feel our church is there for us in time of need and it's hard when you feel that wasn't the case, especially when you're already trying to deal with your own and your D's deep pain.

Divorced February 27, 2012.

"Only by love is love awakened".~ Ellen G White