Passenger, I am having trouble posting at the moment as I am on my Blackberry and I keep having to go back and edit-aaaargh!
I came to the boards post reconciliation but my early posts, though disjointed, should explain to you my sitch if you just flick through a few.
My H had exposed to all his staff at his Co. where he is the boss, and just the H of our closest friends. OW had left her H and very young children,( two aged under six), and set up a love nest. She was putting pressure on my H to leave me, or to be precise to kick me out and move her in. My H had seen my changes that I had made- not even knowing he was having an A. Eventually he came clean, told me about the A, (which I had suspected), and asked for time to choose between us. I said no. As a kept wife I was stupid for me but there was no other answer. I was lucky in that I had already made changes my H had noticed and the A had gotten out of the 'high' stage as it had been going on for 18 months. It was still touch and go.
Very quickly we owned our own parts in the M breakdown and knew within a week we would be reuniting.
It was my changes, and timing, and determination, and luck, that all helped. Plus we worked out as we went further into reconciliation how to avoid the things that had gone wrong before.
Hope that synopsis helps.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
