I disagree Allen. In passenger,s case her H was already beginning to expose the A to friendsM I think he actually doesn't care much at the moment, which is why the wrong move could be so dangerous
The way HE exposes and the way his WIFE exposes aren't the same... Even her husband's reaction and OW's reaction shows clearly that it made an impact...
If it didn't matter they wouldn't be hiding it now and telling people they are working on their marriages publically... look at Maynard's wife as an example of exposure that has zero impact... his wife and their circle of friends just invite the OM over for dinner, she's cavorting about with OM and showing him off to everyone... Pass' Husband isn't donig that.. when she exposed he HID the affair again... he was humiliated and so was she.
They were BOTH FURIOUS... If it didn't matter they wouldn't have reacted so aggressively with Passenger for speaking up in the first place.
People don't get angry over something that doesn't matter to them. They get angry when you unsettle their lives in some way...
