I disagree Allen. In passenger's case her H was already beginning to expose the A to friends. I think he actually doesn't care much at the moment, which is why the wrong move could be so dangerous.
He is hradually distancing himself and I think passengers best tool is to ensure he has less time to play by making him more responsible in the daily lives of his children. Hopefully it will also make him see just what passenger does for him and make him appreciate her more.
She could always let the kids in on it so they don't feel rejected by her and they know to phone their dad automatically when they need lifts etc.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
