Right now I just don't have answers. Characteristically, this all came up on a weekend. Also characteristically, the only reason it came up at all was that I'd happened to check in with the lawyers and they'd just got the document but were half-way out the door. Every time she's done that -- had the document "provided" between 16.30 and 17.00 on a Friday. Keeeeee-rist.
The more I think about it, the more frustrated I get, but instead of letting that frustration morph into lashing-out-anger at STBX I'm using it to fuel a solution. This is one of those situations where @Coach keeps talking about leading. Well, f*ck it, fine then. I'll lead. She can keep making messes, and I'll keep finding ways out of them for Themselves and Smiley's Person Himself. I always admired Patton. I'm not interested in holding my ground. I am advancing constantly.
