I noticed in your thread that you always held the door open for your H.
I have decided that a small amount of cake eating is fine. He comes here at least weekly but just recently much more often to see the children.
Other posivitive I have seen are
Talked about a nice holiday we had in the 80's Told me he worries about me. Insisted on buying food to cook supper Openly chatted to our neighbour which he hasn't done since last summer. Laughing with the children Came and gave me a cuddle when I was upset. No contact like that for at least two years. Asking my opinion on his business plans. Made contact with close friends he hasn't seen since last spring. Connecting with the family. Left his mobile in the kitchen with me for an hour. Leaves his opened mail in the hall for 3 days. Talked with great passion about one of his hobbies which he hasn't done for over 2 years.
When he visits the children the anger has subsided and he is always pleasant. He initiates the conversation and I always validate what he says. I keep out of his way and sometimes I arrange to be out when he is here.
I am moving along my path. I am different than when he left. I do forgive him having the affiar as I know it is only a symptom of his MLC.
