you want this to be an "addiction" or MLC b/c you think that somehow it means he's not being an adulterous jerk who cheats AND so, that means what? I mean, What are you going to DO with your life? Wait for whatever this is (and I'll let others fight that one out) to do what?
I mean, seems like a lot of deflecting from the real issue which is your approach and detaching and GAL and all that. He's NOT asking you for help. I would feel differently if he were. And you are avoiding the whole FB thing b/c you don't seem able to change your own behavior.
You tried exposure and it didn't work. You snoop but won't do follow up or force consequences,. soooo you torture yourself. You catch him in lies you cannot prove, and even if you could prove them, so what? You are not ready for the consequences part and he seems to like this power you are giving him And trust me, you are giving the power to him.
Why haven't you changed your fb settings so he cannot know you are online? What are your goals in these behaviors?
Please please hire a DB coach for at least one session. Or better yet 3, b/c it's cheaper overall and you'll be able to monitor much better with THEIR insights...SO worth the money. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
