Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[Jstar]

I've made so many mistakes. I would tell him if he couldn't be there for me during pregnancy how could he expect to be there during birth.

we didnt speak for months and i came up with the name. before we seperated he knew yhis child was a boy and wanted to name him after his name but not a jr. i said we could talk about it and time went on and we seperated.

in the hospital they brought me paperwork i put the name i chose, he saw it and walked out. I didn't give them the paperwork in hopes that he would want to talk about it. i asked him if he wanted to talk about it and he wouldj ust get so mad he couldn't. in the end my his not on the birth certificate, it's the name i decided months prior to son's birth.

i did this knowing i had certain amount of time that i could change his name, ihave another month where teh name change would be easy. I also felt at the time to protect my children by not listing h on certificate, he has no rights what so ever. if i had listed him he could take child anytime and cops would just say go through court to get custody orders.

At this point for both children he has to go through paternity to get visitation.

I didn't list him in thinking if he prooved himself by the time i needed to change his name i would, if he didn't do anything to prove himself i would leave son's name as it stands. btw our d 2.5 has hyphinated name. h wasn't happy about that either.