More journaling - it is interesting to observe the WAS as they navigate through their emotional whirlwind in a 'game point' situation like this where they are facing monumental changes in their life (brought upon by themself).
Yep. Time to pay the piper. Tough when you realize that all consequences are due to your own decision.
Originally Posted By: tryingtilDorR
W and I talked about her moving out - Her big excuse for not leaving yet is that she doesn't have furniture. I was being 'helpful' suggesting where she might be able to buy some furniture for her new place, etc., and even offering her some of the stuff in the house to take (stuff I could live without or otherwise want to replace anyway).
What a lame excuse. She doesn't have the guts to own her decision. Just like she has no guts to file for divorce.
Originally Posted By: tryingtilDorR
Lately she seems very adamant about making the point that the fact that she got involved with OM was MY FAULT because I didn't make her happy in the M!
I get this a lot too. The WAS has to come up with someone to blame because THERE'S NO WAY a good person like them would ever do something so horrible as have an affair. "HE is not why we are where we are." NO KIDDING. We each own 50% of the responsibility for the state of our marriage. Doesn't excuse the horrible decision to go outside of the marriage. THAT is ALL WAW's fault. However HE is the reason WAW can't bring themselves to go about the hard task of fixing the problems in the marriage. As long as HE is around, reconciliation is impossible.
As dark as it may seem tryingtilDorR, your wife still seems very conflicted about this. As long as that is the case, there is hope. Hang in there and leave it all up to the man upstairs. You know what He wants. Those who cross His will create massive problems for themselves.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
