Libby, you seem to have good handle on what's going on with your H. Tha cake eating part is difficult to handle and it's hard to know when to cut it off and set some boundaries.
They seem to want us to stay right where they left us and be there for them anytime they peek out out of the tunnel (checking if we are still there?).
After my H broke up with the OW and wanted to R he told me "The love I was showing him while the affair was going on made him want to come back".
I believe that it's important to be there for them when they need us...sort of being their "rock". I think that it's OK if they do a little "cake eating" as long as it doesn't make You feel used.
My motto is "love them from a distance and keep detached".
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
