I am sorry we are here too. Thank you for your response, and I agree on there is so much advice that it is hard to know what to do. I tried so many different approaches during the pre-divorce, and would make one step forward, only to find myself three steps back. I have recently been able to detach enough that when he is around I am able to act confident, happy ect ect. I do not linger when he comes over to watch son, and quickly leave. I am cordial, and appreciative of all he does, and he is doing quite a bit. In fact, he came and got my car while I was at work, and had it repaired for me, paid for work, and then brought it back to my parking space at work in time for me to leave. He is obviously consumed with guilt, and I suppose is easing his conscience with acts of service. He is coming over today to complete a project he started on our backyard. I am tempted to tell him no, but instead I will just leave while he is here.
I noticed your post on subject of facebook. Is that encouraging for us who are standing for our marriage? If so, I need to become a part of that.
I remain faithful that God is working in our lifes, and making us into who he wants us to be. And even though it hurts to see our children suffer, I know God is going to lead them to Himself.
