is my WAH in an MLC (need some experts!)?

[pandora]

ok, so i have a ?. is there a way i can figure out how long my H has been in MLC? just trying to see if it's been a while or not. my thinking is that it's been about 2 years (basically since the loss of our son) especially cause it took him a year to even bring up the ILYBNILWY...then it's almost been a year since that...

a side note to everyone who is following my sitch. there was external pressure for H to make a decision. so he had decided to go for D (since he's not feeling any change - of course, he's also in a warped reality!). the timeline we have in front of us is 3 months...so basically by mid-summer. i'm still interested in waiting this out and in my case if we D, it will be very final from many perspectives (too complicated to explain). so i want to try to avoid that piece...NOT to not let go, but i don't want to shut doors.

i could speak to external source (who is our religious leader) and tell him to tell H to consider waiting longer...but is that me trying to control sitch...will that put more pressure on H? i don't want to say anything to H of course.

personally, the more i am reading about MLC, the more i feel the strength right now to stay in. i've been feeling good about detaching and am trying to be ready for the rough roads ahead.