Gatsby, H and I always mentioned names we liked and recently when were on better terms both shared our list of names... 90% of our lists were the exact same names...
Sometimes i start thinking if its the wrong or right thing to do to give baby H's last name... if i am the primary caregiver and will be probably go back to my maiden name if we really do get D'd, then who's name does the baby carry? What are you thinking of doing? JStar what did you do?
Jstar, you are right on with my thoughts when you talk about your delivery. In 10 years I want my son to knw that i did everything possible to save this marriage... because that is who i am . I also want husband to be there when the baby comes into the world and breathes his first breath... i am not sure if i am wrong for telling him he can not be there, although i wish he'd come around and show me that he wants to be there. When it comes to the baby, H is not backing down. says he doesnt want to do the custody route and that he and I will devise a schedule and that torturing an infant with house swapping is not his idea of raising an infant. In his delusion state of mind, he has often mentioned that he wants to move in when the baby is born to be there for me and the baby? told him definitey not a good idea. By all means when i say i no to him, its just to set some boundaries and show him he cant walk away and then back in when the baby is born. He often says, the baby has nothing to do with us! I dont see it that way!!!! Baby is here because of us and deserves a shot of a family life with both of his parents loving and living under the same roof. this is where i start to think he has lost his mind and is suffering sort of depression.
Why would someone want to leave their wife, and yet want to be a part of their life? dont most WAS walk away and move on?? believe me i am glad he is not 100% gone, but what exactly is this. I asked him this week, if he was just plain confused, and he said no, nothing has changed. So i guess he really thinks that I will just sit here and be friends with him to make him happy again?!
I also thought about changing my number, there are days i turn it off and leave it at home, or remove the battery and store it in the basement just to avoid the urge to text. H likes that I am still hanging on and that is the biggest reason why this has to all stop.
