Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[saffie]

At my school, the popular kids were the ones who forged their own paths and didn't seem to care what others thought about them. Their confidence was like a drug - it attracted others.

The needy ones were the ones who seemed to get left out in the cold.

Go forge your own path passenger; sounds to me like your H might well follow. Stop looking at what he is doing. By all means, you must take action to protect yourself financially etc. but apart from that, go out and look after yourself.

Your not ready for dealing with your H head on from how you describe things. You need to regroup. So use the time to find your 'mojo'

Forget about labels like ghandi, bo-peep, MLC, and do what feels right for you. Remember what worked before but do take into consideration that the circumstances are different to last time.

Your H sounds like one of those A peeps who is addicted to romance, ( all the soul mate stuff and planning a M with OW etc.) His detachment from you is a tad worrying which is why hard balling him IMO is not such a good idea.

DB coaching sounds like a good idea though - not only would it offer you strategies, (hopefully), but also some well needed support.

Exposure hasn't work, probably because your H was in the process of doing it anyways and didn't give a sh!t. That makes it hard. It does work when the exposed party is deeply upset by it, but your H doesn't seem to have had the violent reaction that an exposed S usually has. Maybe it's because for Puppy and Allen they were dealing with exposed women - I don't know. My H was shamed also by exposure to friends - although in the workplace he had been quite open about it; though that was done to stop the gossip which he felt was hindering his staff working properly. They kept the secret well from me{ eyeroll}

If you are looking for intel look for proper intel, but only do that WHEN you feel you can actually decide what to do with it. Before you know what to do about it you just hurt yourself and drag yourself down. STOP looking at FB - they are using it to bait you.....and it works every time. Your H was waiting to see you on FB when you were showing your friend- can't you see that? And when he see's you on it he knows you aren't out GALing.

Go find the old passenger - the one your H fell in love with, or the one that likes and respects herself enough she doesn't give a rats a$$ what her H thinks.