I've always thought that you should look at the 16 years or whatever before the D. X was almost totally uninvolved, and the typical one night a week, and every other weekend I was requesting was MORE time than he spent with them up until right before the first D hearing. And I'm shocked my poor brother is getting hosed with my legal fees. As a sahm for 10 years, just going back to work, seems like my X should have at least had to pay half or more (of the $10,000). I had a dream last night I called the judge and my X scum.
The plays are about 2 months total with rehearsal and performance time. Usually about 5 or 6 nights a week, so it would be on "his" nights too. You have to pretty much be there for all of them. She didn't do any plays this year, so I think one play every 2 years seems reasonable, but extracurricular activities take extra time/driving and he doesn't believe in them.
Oh, X did email this am re: dropoff today. He'll pick them up at 8; of course doesn't want the extra hours he could have had with them!!!
