I will catch you up. This man has lied and lied and lied, and has been a spectator in my REMARKABLE efforts to reconcile this M.
There comes a time when you are done, and need to be done. It's not healthy. This is not healthy. The only reason he has a warm place to sleep is because I still need information from our joint financial efforts, and I won't be able to access it once I confront. It is not out of love. Trust me. That is gone.
I'm sorry if it's not what anyone wants to hear, but he's allowed my consistant efforts to continue for TWO YEARS, and, probably carried on an A during that time. How does someone do that? I may be able to forgive(highly unlikely) but I will NEVER forget, and I hold a grudge forever.
I don't want to make the extra effort for 1-2 years down the road. I want a life now. I've put it on hold too long.
I know I sound bitter. I've done the work. He hasn't.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
(((MF))) Everyone has their deal breakers!!! This time you spent working on your M has made you the strong lady you are today! I love reading your thread and know that no matter what you decide to do...YOU are going to be just fine!!!!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Kalni and Flo - It's only cat and mouse until I get my ducks in a row. It's taking a little longer to get my homework done for the attorney because of being swamped w/work. I don't want to "release" too early, though, and shoot myself in the foot. We have a lot of financial stuff to consider.
CW - Thank you!! You are so sweet! I'll continue to post, but don't always promise to behave!
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Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
This, right here, makes me want to hurl... I posted it in November of last year. SHEESH! Sure takes me a long as$ time to get it.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
For the first time in a year, I initiated some kind of R talk... He had called me (after he left to go back out of town for work), and said I looked like I felt just horrible (bad cold recently, hospitalized for heart issues - ok now) and hoped I felt better. I txt'd him back and said...
"I just miss my husband. I miss our closeness. I miss feeling like a part of you. I miss our intimacy. I miss being loved by you. I just miss you,k even when you are right here. The real problem with my heart is that a piece of it is missing. I love you."
No response.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
^^^ Oh, do I know how that feels! Our wives have done these same disgusting things.
Mindfull, I am with you. I don't know how someone can KNOW that their spouse loves them and have an affair at the same time. AND lie about it point blank! I don't get it.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Although I always love to hear of reconciliation, my second favorite story is the one where the woman becomes strong and fulfilled and moves on. Good luck.
It could be that the man also becomes strong and fulfilled and move on. The feelings are about the same whether its the woman doing the cheating or the man.
Girl, I guess it's "nice" that my exH released me then, when I think of the alternative that you have been living in. I am so proud you are strong enough to get your duck in a row. Very smart girl!
You are doing fabulous and the weekend is almost over. Which I am sure cause he's around more. Sure explains a lot though.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Thinking of you! In a way I can relate as I had to keep what I knew under wraps for a very, very long time. You are doing a fabulous job at taking care of you!
