maybe our h's are cut somewhat from same cloth. my h probably knew i would cave at that last moment. I remember someone saying do you want to be proud later on explaining to you son the circumstances around the birth? Who am i kidding i wanted him there, thought it would bring us closer and change things.
it did for alittle bit but we both settled back into our same destructive patterns.
On the text/calling issue, i'm rowing that boat with you as well. I was strong the end of Nove thru mid janurary almost feb of no real contact with h. he also went script with let's be friends. i told him under no way circumstance could i ever would i ever be his friend. I asked him, do you see me being friends with my exhusband whom we have a common daugther with?
Another poster told me to say something like this when h says lets be friends. Point to the ring, we are married. I'll have to look it up I think I just butchered the quote. basically it is saying that it unacceptable to be friends with someone your married to.
Ive even gone so far as to get rid of my phone so i wouldn't text/call, then i sabotage myself and say oh well i can send msgs via internet....
the last msg i sent to h was about his tire pump, i have to pump my tire a few times a day if i want to drive my car, i sent msg that it died. since then i've been dark.
not that i don't check my phone constantly driving myself in sane.
resist the temptation: I would think to myself a few months back of this: if i'm texting calling him he's in control, knowing what's going on with me and kids. If I don't text/call he will begin to wonder what's going on with me and kids, atleast that's the intention. it also helped to change things around teh house.
So i'm with you about contact but starting to focus on loosing all the baby weight.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
