I would not be surprised if in in the course of tonight you will get "your an A-hole" texts then maybe an "I'm horny" text, then a "too bad we can't work it out text". Than another "you're an A hole" why won't you respond text. You may see the whole gamut tonight if you can keep from responding. You have her wondering. She is used to you hanging on ever word/text etc...you are not and you have her thinking now. Don't respond
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
haha, yeah. . .there's nothing short of a "I ended it with OM and I want to talk to you about us" text that i'm responding to. And even then. . .I'd have to figure that out for myself. So it begins. haha. "I miss them (our pets) so much."
nothing short of a "I ended it with OM and I want to talk to you about us" text that i'm responding to.
No you are NOT. No more responses to texts! Period. What are you? A thirteen year-old who has to hide behind a text? Adults talk. Face to face.
When she comes to you with that phrase, you look her in the eye and say, "You know something, with all that's happened, I don't believe you. Besides, at this moment I'm not even sure if I love you anymore. I need some space to think about things. I'll let you know what I decide." Turn around and walk away.
If she means it she will pursue you... she will hunt you down and find new ways to communicate with you. Until then you hold onto your raisins and wait for them to inflate.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
And one more thing... the way your messages sound with all the chuckling going on in them... you are off balance. This isn't a game. People are advising you here to RESTORE your marriage NOT to execute petty revenge. Start thinking about what you are doing. If you are playing games now, stop. If you are done, stop. You didn't like losing your dignity did you? Well, don't take pleasure in watching her squirm.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Oh yeah, I wasn't meaning to imply that if, which it wouldn't happen anyway, she did send something like that, I wouldn't be texting her back. Trust me, I've had to deal with her avoiding face to face conversations long enough.
and you're right, I'm not, in any way taking pleasure in watching her squirm or trying to think of ways to get her back. Nothing of the sorts. Yes, I am trying to restore my marriage, or restore it to a point where we're both able to see if it still has a future after everything that's happened. I wasn't trying to make it sound like I see this as a big game.
OK. Just checking. And yes, it's important to get this to a point where you both can make a clear decision.
What you need to do now is concentrate on yourself and work on yourself. You've got work to do in that department. Take this time away to work on yourself and improve your self-esteem.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend. You should be fine.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Here's what's so puzzling to me. The whole borrow the car thing for food, me ignoring it, then her saying she had soup. . .well, I was on my bank site opening up a new account for myself so that I'm not having my money spent on her crap for OM (which she has started doing) anyway, she didn't have soup, she ordered pizza. Why do I end up feeling like my W is a habitual liar?
