hey, you probably won't like to hear this, but this is my thought.
your H never liked getting expensive stuff right? you had mentioned you used to always want something better, like the house or vacations, or whatever... then, he's buying something that he doesn't want, and something you really wanted.
even if he is buying it out of guilt. guilt can be a good thing when someone needs to be feeling guilty. of course under different circumstances, lets say before you hired the PI, I'm thinking you might have been happy.
I just wouldn't dwell on this gift too much.
I am interested in your plans to have an actual discussion with him about everything. I'm assuming before you make any dramatic decisions, you will be doing that first.
I also am curious...even if you found out the worst information you could hear, but you were told that in 1-2 years from now you guys would have the best R you've ever had, as a TRUE married couple...IF you made the choice to not give up. what would you want? because whatever has happened (or even happening) really doesn't matter. it's what can happen in the future that really counts.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
