L&L,
sorry that you are on here... did you read DB and DR??? You really should... it will help you so much. Did you know throughout the entire separation and divorce process that this was not what you wanted?

Do you talk to your W? have you spoken to her about how you feel?

Wishing you lots of luck... be sure to read the books and navigate this site... you'll pick up a lot of good pointers and you'll gain a lot of stregnth from everyone on here.