I agree with old pilot. No contact is best. I remember my first birthday without my ex, he bought me a little white bear from the dollar store. That about summed up our relationship. Hang in there.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11