bd, I'm glad I caught you. I was sorry to read your Dad's story.
You need to grieve the old marriage. the loss of the innocence. You need to set aside time to do that. Cry every day if you have to, get the crying over and done with otherwise it will build up and come out anyway. then you need to refocus on what you want. You can still have values, still be 'crossed' by someone you love, and you can chose what direction you want to take.
Don't let your relative put ideas in your head. You cannot write the future, nor can others. But you can chose to be the woman who forgives her husband now or one day down the track.
You have to face the pain of your situation. Accept it. Live with it. Grow strong. Only then are you ready to fight for your marriage. Meanwhile you have to fake it till you make it - so even if you want to txt him or call him, DON'T.
Do what WORKS, not what FEELS good.
Do the above even if you decide at the end of the day you DON'T want the marriage.
You need to stick to your word BD when you tell H that he is out of your life. It doesn't have to be forever - what's 3 weeks of going dark? You are 27-28 weeks pregnant. NOW is the time.
Challenge yourself. This is hard work. But you will be proud of yourself for leading the way with your WH. Show him what a strong adult is. Show him you you have values and boundaries. Don't do it to be mean. Do it because it's the right thing for you and baby, and because it gives you the biggest chance of saving your M (I'm only going by what the vets say..and they've seen thousands of cases like ours.).
