i can speak from experience on this horrid topic. H left me 4 months pregnant. Up until surgery i was determined not to tell him when son was being born, angry angry angry. swore up and down for months no way was he getting near the birth, the day was about me and baby.
The day before surgery I went into labor i broke down and called him. Allowed him in delievery room, it was tense for a few days, after week in hospital went home,.
got home things didn't go well, he took our d2.5 soccer earlyin am and was supposed to return to make sure i was ok and fed,. he did't show back up until 8pm.
since then(feb) we don't handle our arguments, no communication. There are a few days he comes to see kids then weeks will pass till he does again. I had to put a stop to that, confusing and not healthy.
If it was just my nbson i probably wouldn't have had such a hard time but, i have my 2.5 yr old d and no family support. I would HATE him for leaving me, not helping.
you asked the question about falling in love with baby when born of course you will, enough to forget about h, IT WOULD BE TOTALLY AWESOME if that happened to me, but it didn't. I could not help but feel, i fought for 9 months for this baby,( high risk pregnancy under special care and meds)i wanted to harm him, so i put out his lawnmowers he left at my house mnths back for the taking. after that anger subsided, i wanted it to work out even more.
unfortunately i still love him, want my marriage.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
