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Kalni...come over to my thread and check out The Penis Song if you need a laugh. FIB


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Did you change threads or something?

I mean 1 whole day with nothing.

Those damn beavers.. building a DAM.

All work and no play.

All this time I thought you cooking some steaks on the grill was more attractive.

I am going to bed.

Good Morning.. Mrs Maria.

You deserve it.


Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.


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Hey forrest,
I cooked fish and went for waxing today. Had a morning surprise from H (he repeatedly has said not the morning type-things change I assume), I surprised him back!! LOL smile
I will be back later...
K

mind, fill me in with what happened, I am a little worried about you girl!


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I would just about kill for a morning surprise! And I'm a night owl!

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Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...


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Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
Those damn beavers.. building a DAM.
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Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
All work and no play.
Looks more like the other way around.

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Originally Posted By: Kalni
Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...



Again, my sitch does not compare one bit to yours- yours was a million times harder. But yes, I think, once you know they are recommiting you start to question your own commitment. Is this person that put me through hell really worth it. Aren't I worth better than this? Can they really change and put forth the effort?


All the thoughts I had.... My H did put forth the effort so it pretty much stopped those negative thoughts.

I just feel like I can really give good input b/c I did not deal with an A. I think the whole trust things makes everything so very much harder. Really harder....


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"Looks more like the other way around."

I don't know FB.. I would tend to disagree with you some.

K is a P Love Language.

It's there and she will deny it.. but I believe it to be true.

I follow my gut.. sometimes to a fault.

"I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels..."

Smart play. Now.. you have what you want.. within your grasp. What can you do to make it feel less "fractured"?

"I cooked fish and went for waxing today."

The grill must have been really hot. You could cook fish on it?

TMI!!

"I will be back later..."

See.. now you are just being coy.

You are teasing me.. you know I like the "drama" and you are withholding it.

I mean you made me post in piecing and you know I don't like it.

What is a "guru" to do?

Good Work.

Oh... yea.. It is about time you stepped up and showed me the way.

Just.. don't over do it.


Relax
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Do something different.
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Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.


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Kalni, I think I finally said to myself. I will choose this relationship again but if he messes with me and we have to end I WILL BE FINE! And that really settled my mind.

I decided I would have no regrets either. But defnitely I would be fine.


I totally get the "he is not good enough anymore for me" thought process. I mean who wants an @ss and seriously most of the WAS's acted like unreasonable morons. For a period of time at least.


I guess it depends on how much they are willing to do the hard work and effort that really determines things.... I think repairing a M definitely becomes a two way street one the recommitment is there, IMO.


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Originally Posted By: Kalni
Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...

Dear Kalni,
I have absolutely no advice for you on this one. I'm still trying to figure out the very same thing. Hopefully you can figure it out soon.
HUGS!!!!


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