Kalni...come over to my thread and check out The Penis Song if you need a laugh. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hey forrest, I cooked fish and went for waxing today. Had a morning surprise from H (he repeatedly has said not the morning type-things change I assume), I surprised him back!! LOL I will be back later... K
mind, fill me in with what happened, I am a little worried about you girl!
Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...
Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...
Again, my sitch does not compare one bit to yours- yours was a million times harder. But yes, I think, once you know they are recommiting you start to question your own commitment. Is this person that put me through hell really worth it. Aren't I worth better than this? Can they really change and put forth the effort?
All the thoughts I had.... My H did put forth the effort so it pretty much stopped those negative thoughts.
I just feel like I can really give good input b/c I did not deal with an A. I think the whole trust things makes everything so very much harder. Really harder....
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
Kalni, I think I finally said to myself. I will choose this relationship again but if he messes with me and we have to end I WILL BE FINE! And that really settled my mind.
I decided I would have no regrets either. But defnitely I would be fine.
I totally get the "he is not good enough anymore for me" thought process. I mean who wants an @ss and seriously most of the WAS's acted like unreasonable morons. For a period of time at least.
I guess it depends on how much they are willing to do the hard work and effort that really determines things.... I think repairing a M definitely becomes a two way street one the recommitment is there, IMO.
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M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
Is it ok to look at him at times and wonder how the he!! did I end up here? I am not sure I can live with a "fractured" M no matter how good it sometimes feels...
Dear Kalni, I have absolutely no advice for you on this one. I'm still trying to figure out the very same thing. Hopefully you can figure it out soon. HUGS!!!!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz