Bluestar gives great advice here... "Quit thinking about what HE wants, how HE'LL react, even what HE is doing. It's only making you crazy. Start thinking about what you want, what will make you happy. Nothing will work until you put youself first. This isn't about him. It's really about YOU."
Do this and you will see things from a very different perspective...
I also agree w/ Allen about giving ANY control to WH in his state
