Sol's separated thread

[ClingingToHope]

WholeAgain, I think W and I were exactly the opposite. I thought I could change STBXW, help her, lift her out of her depression. STBXW gave up on me because -- I think -- she believes I can't change.

The Power of Now is an excellent book. There's a chapter on marriage that I've struggled with for 11 months. Tolles writes that many people aren't actually in love with their spouse, they are in love with being in a relationship.

I've really, really, really tried to figure that out. There are lots of times, when I'm occupied and out having fun that I don't think about STBXW at all. That leads me to believe I was just in love with being in a relationship.

But I'm not entirely sure.