I think Cat is right on. You can handle the pool. Maybe you haven't before, but you can start. Your H needs to see that you are self sufficient and can function without him, and for YOURSELF, you need to be self sufficient. I learned to do tons of things I had never done before and it felt great!
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
