Need a Plan for My Marriage

[antlers]

Hi antlers,

Thanks for the comments.

Why did she change the visitation to sole custody 4 months later if you do not mind me asking. How do think that will go over with the courts and the judge?

I hope you are able to fight that new order. I am wondering what W will try to do to me if she files. I will fight for everything!

She left our home in Feb. of 2009, and the kids got on a set schedule going back and forth between us. Then she filed in Oct. of 2009...8 months later! In that paperwork, she requested joint custody, and for the kids to continue with the schedule thay had been on ever since she left. Then as I said, 4 months later she changed her custody request to sole custody. Why? Damned if I know. She's been more hateful and vindictive as time goes by, and I think she just wants to hurt me as much as she can. Also, I think it's possible that she thinks if she can get sole custody, then she'll get a bunch more money from me for child support...and also she could take the children and move them out of state with her.
I hope the fact that she requested these changes after our kids have been on the same set schedule for over one year speaks loudly to the courts and the judge.

I am fighting it! That's pissin' her off even more, and it's making her even more vindictive and hateful towards me. Whatever. She's using the kids as a weapon against me...something I thought I'd NEVER see from her. But then, since December of 2008 I've seen and heard lots of things from her that I NEVER thought I'd see and hear.

These things can start out amicable...but they can sure turn mean and nasty!