Hey Smiley, here's one I know you'll love. She once complained "you only send me flowers because you know I like it" Damn, busted again. I knew I should have sent her the toilet plunger with balloons and the cute little bear attached. I am such a loooooser!
This was my favorite. In the final three years together, the stresses seemed to be piling up so I started doing the dishes every night, all of the laundry, made most of the meals, gave the girls baths.
All so she could concentrate on work and hopefully get promoted.
She told about 14 months ago that I "didn't do it out of love." I was doing it so she'd be "too dependent to leave" me.
One thing I have enjoyed these last 10 months is just laying down on the couch when I get home. It's been years since I did that.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
I knew I should have sent her the toilet plunger with balloons and the cute little bear attached. I am such a loooooser!
hahaha!!
I wish I had a story to share but my STBXW just kept it all inside and simmered instead of giving communicatiion a chance.
Maybe one...while unemployed last year she said she felt useless and yet she didn't have time to do anything...huh? Anyway, I suggested volunteering or getting involved in her hobbies like gardening, baking, bicycling. I even put DD back in daycare school full time so she could have time to herself. Later she said "you 'pressured' me to do things that you wanted me to do". Sorry for trying to help!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
That's a good one Romeo. See you've got war stories to share! When mine told me that because I did everything she didn't feel like a part of the family (she was working full time and going to school in the evenings so I took on a lot of family responsibilities to help her out)so I suggested she take on a task or two to feel more involved and she replied "I don't actually want to do any of these things, I'm just talking about my feelings" Uhhhh,OK Oh yes, all these touching memories to cherish and hold onto forever and ever! I've got a million of 'em.
In 2007, we had a driveway torn out and STBXW asked that I build her two retaining walls for a flower garden. I worked up at 5 a.m. for six weeks building it to her specifications.
Then she didn't plant anything in 2007 or 2008. I spent hours pulling weeds from it and wondering what she was going to do.
Finally in 2009, after I left she planted a row of flowers. Now, D11 tells me she spent a whole weekend putting stuff in.
Like others have said, if you suggest it then it's not worth doing.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
OK, why this surprises me is the next big question. I just got back from picking up the girls at STBX's place. Stupidly, I brought up how our D had asserted herself with her teacher figuring we would have a parental victory dance or something...WRONG! STBX is still upset at the way the teacher handled this situation...unbelievable. She said "It's good that D approached him but I'm still upset, What kind of teacher just increases a grade because a student asks him. He didn't even look at her work or give it to another teacher for a second opinion...blah blah blah blah." I just stood there with my mouth open. Here our D has just asserted herself successfully with a teacher who intimidates her and all STBX can talk about is how upset she is! I changed the topic ASAP. When we got in the car I said to D "I see you told your mother about approaching the teacher yesterday" and D replied "OMG Daddy, she's still complaining. She says she wishes I had of given the teacher the letter she wrote" un-friggin-believable! I said to D "Yes, your mother is a special person" We both burst out laughing.It's times like these when I'm so glad I'm not with that woman anymore. I spent 17 years listening to her complain. What ever made me think I could do anything to please her? Yes, she's a very "special" person.
Well, d'uh! Everyone knows that, dude! "Goodnight" always means "come to bed and take me to another dimension, Love Creature From Planet X!" Except when it means, "Are you kidding?" Or, "No way, I'm too tired." Or, "I'm p*ssed-off right now and can't stand the sight of you." Or, "I need some space." Or, "I have to go the bathroom." Or, "I'm going to go do some reading." Or, "Goodnight." But come on -- how unreasonable of us not to "get it." One wonders how human-kind has managed to procreate at all, really....
I missed this, so you get a retroactuive Belly-Laugh Of The Day Award
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Hey SmileyP, I'm supposed to be the funny guy on this thread! (As he lies on the floor crying and pounding his fists). I don't wanna play with you anymore. I'll just take my posts and go home, that'll teach you...and I'm gonna tell my Mom too!
