Steve, you are reading it very differently than me. I think she is still scheduling appointments here to have a reason to have contact with me periodically without committing to a reconciliation. Maybe she isn't giving me much notice to see me in a more realistic environment and not one set up to impress her. This backfired yesterday as her assumptions that I would be available were wrong.
You seem to be suggesting she may be having an A here. If she were, she could have stayed in the house and I could haved moved or, she could have gotten an apartment. She moved far away to be with family saying that without the M, there is nothing for her here anymore.
As far as how I needed to be straightened out, my sitch touches on some of it. I have been job stressed to the point of rarely taking time off, rarely communicating with W during the week, no plans for the weekend, just watching TV and resting my stressed mind and body with occasional essential chores. Specifically, not making my M priority and not doing what makes my W feel loved. There were other distractions of the mind that men of my age (all ages?) have sometimes, that have little to do with reality. It doesn't help when stress makes you feel older than you are.
I shoulder much of the blame, but the W's job has taken a great toll too. We have both been professionally ambitious and have supported each others endeavors to a point that our job sitch has slowly drifted us apart. When someone travels for work, they have to reserve everything else for the weekend: laundry, housekeeping, shopping, hobbies, visiting, errands, and quality time with the spouse. Almost nothing can be taken care of in the week unless the nontraveling S does it. Two days is not enough to take care of everything, at least not long-term. Now we often resent each other for our unforfilling lives although we supported the decisions that got us here.
