I cant speak for Rob himself, but I have never taught Rob has ever been belittling. I think there are people who are going through the same stuff or those that don't want to get involved or mothers that want to be huggy and sweet and offer a shoulder to cry on, and there are others that want to help open your eyes to the reality of the situation (as harsh as it may feel when it smacks you on the side of the head).
People change Peabody. My wife and I are not the same people we were when we met 20 years ago, or 10 years ago or 5 years ago for that matter. Neither are you and your wife. Changes take place in our body; where once we were horny bastards and our wives were thinking gowns and children and love language, many men are now career and family driven and trying to make the best with what little we got thinkin that is what it takes; while their wives are thinking I'm horny and this young guy from marketing his constantly hitting on me and my husband falls asleep snoring without even noticing ... me.
There is a book out now by John Gray, venus on fire mars on ice, that might help to explain in a best selling author approach (although personally I have always like Rob's writing style and have found it very charismatic and reality driven).
