Thank you all for your powerful responses. I didn't really expect to hear from him, I was just kind of irritable and fired off an email to a nameless, faceless sender.
The thing is, there's no one to expose him to. We have episcopal clergy here in town who have recently made the papers for being part of a male prostitution ring, and for serial affairs with parishioners. This is nothing. In fact, this is probably seen as tactful handling of a potential scandal.
I will respond in time, but it won't be as a pitiful scorned wife. It will be as a fellow pastoral minister--but one with a spine and some moral authority. I want him to cringe--and never to handle anything this way again.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012