Fixer, I am not Cat but just wanted to chime in. From GF's posts, she still feels the need to be the nurturer and the care taker. From what I have gathered, she hasn't done enough detachment and truly taken care of herself. She is still fragile and damaged. Any sort of contact can throw her H into running again and her back to square one.
Fixer, GF FWIW I agree with CAT. In MLC detach, NC if possible, is the best thing to do for both yourself and the one in crisis. Other DB techniques have to wait until later.
